Do you have abusive parents? Although you may not always behave, you know you do not deserve the treatment you receive from them.
Whether the abuse is physical, emotional or even a combination of the two, it is important to get help. There are a few things you can do take control of the situation and get help with what you are going through.
Talk to a School Counselor
Instead of confronting your parents about their behavior and taking the risk of getting yelled at or physically hurt, consider going to the school counselor. The counselor at your school will listen to you talk about the things you are experiencing at home, many of which may be completely inappropriate. Depending on what you tell the counselor, he or she may need to contact local authorities. While the whole ordeal may be a bit frightening, it is the school counselor who can assist with getting your family some help.
If local authorities are called based on the way your parents have been treating you, the Department of Humans Services may need to get involved. They will want to know more about your life at home. Their job is to make sure children are not physically, mentally or even emotionally abused by their parents and instead live in a safe and comfortable home where they are loved and treated the right way.
Confide in an Adult
If you are too afraid to talk to the school counselor or you do not feel comfortable doing so, you may want to consider confiding in another adult. For example, you may have an older relative who you can trust to talk to about anything, such as an aunt, uncle or grandparent. When you are in abusive situation, it is important to tell someone. If you do not tell anyone what you are going through, the pattern of abuse may only continue to occur.
The trusted adult you talk to may be able to get you some help by contacting Child Protective Services and telling them your story. Professionals working for Child Protective Services may do a random checkup of your family home where they might need to ask some questions to find out more about what is going on. If your parents are causing bodily harm to you, these professionals may remove you from the home on a temporary basis to make sure you are safe. The outcome will vary based on the type of abuse taking place.
Attend Family Counseling Sessions
If your abusive parents are not hurting your physically but are hurting you mentally and emotionally, attending family counseling sessions is often a great option. In fact, the Department of Human Services may even recommend that your family get help together to overcome the problems you are all dealing with. Your mother or father may verbally and emotionally abuse you because that is something they went through when they were little. Although it is not an excuse for them to treat you poorly, they may need to get help to learn how to stop the cycle and treat you the right way.
Dealing with parents who are abusive is hard. You may worry about coming home because you never know what kind of mood they will be in or what kinds of things they will do to you as soon as you get there. Instead of living in fear, make sure to get help by speaking to an adult you can trust, whether it is the counselor at school or another adult you already know.